“I walked into a restaurant last summer while I was in prep for the August show and I walked by this couple, a woman and this big fat guy and he looked at me, I had a tank top on, I’m tan and shredded and he goes, “steroids…” as I walk by. A buddy of mine told me this a week ago because conversation struck about competitors or “bodybuilders” getting made fun of. I said, “so, you just walked by and he said, ‘steroids…’ under his breath?”. Just think, the jacked guy would look like the arrogant asshole if he made fun of the overweight guy, right? One thing you will never catch me doing is making someone feel inferior about not wanting to workout. That’s not me as a trainer or me as a competitor. Contrary to what you may think, not all “muscle heads” are arrogant or demeaning, “bro”. Now, going back to the guy who said something to my friend, my friend who told me this doesn’t make fun of anyone. However, just because he’s a competitor and isn’t a bad guy, does that make us all “good guys”? Just because some competitors are assholes, doesn’t make the rest of us assholes. Believe it or not, being “big” or “shredded” doesn’t always get you the greatest compliments. In fact, I hear and see more people that aren’t into working out making fun of people that do workout. So, do you think that people who are considered bodybuilders don’t have a heart?
I began working as a trainer on and off since 2014, been training since 2007, and have been in bodybuilding since 2011. I really picked up training clients in 2017 at more of a private facility, a non-corporate gym, if you will. I also have trained people at another local gym and have watched countless trainers studying their moves, how they treat their clients, etc. One thing I pride myself on is not being “that trainer”, you know the one that only trains who they want to train as opposed to someone who’s actually seeking their help. My goal is to help people, whether a trainer or a competitive bodybuilder, I’m always going to be the guy that everyone can go too. So, you just turned down the person seeking help in the gym, and here you are training someone else that might not even really be seeking a trainers help. Now, the person that’s been seeking help sees you training someone else instead of them, how does that make you feel?
Bodybuilding is a very selfish sport at times and most of us, if not all of us, know this. We devote every minute of everyday to training, eating, getting as much sleep and recovery time as possible. We’re always working towards a goal, staying in tunnel vision is a cake walk for most of us, or at least it should be. We stay “drama” free because we don’t have time for it. Sometimes this causes us to isolate ourselves from loved ones, family, friends, our fiancé, etc. It’s been brought to my attention before that because I don’t like drinking or going out on the weekends, I’m considered boring, too serious, or negative. Now, how would people react if I had said, “well, you’ve been coming to the gym for years, yet you continue to do those habits over the weekend which could be such as, eating, drinking, smoking, and any sort of entertainment that causes you to do these things repetitively. I could say something as simple as that, but in return I would be considered the “asshole”, “douche bag”, arrogant, or demeaning.
I think about a lot of things in the little downtime that I have and one thing I’ve noticed just in the fitness industry alone, with all of the videos and tips on social media, nobody thinks they need help. Are they sure that what they see on social media is being performed correctly though? If that were the case, however, then there would be no need for a coach, a trainer, or a team supporting each other. The worst thing a person can do in this industry is be closed-minded because guess what, there will always be someone better than you or that knows more than you. That’s how I think. I will never push an individual away that wants to help me or wants my help even if they have been known to make fun of “bodybuilders” or “competitors”.
One thing you need to always remember is we all started somewhere. Don’t forget where you started because chances are you needed help just like the person you made fun of needs help. People have said some nasty things to me making me think I’m a failure before even starting, but you know what, now there’s a difference between myself and a lot people…. When I fail, I get back up, put a smile on my face, and go to work to kick ass the next day, most people will hide behind their lame excuses before they even gave themselves a chance to start. Instead of taking video of someone doing something wrong or making fun of the “shredded” guy, the “gym bro”, why don’t you help that person that’s not performing the movement right or ask that shredded guy how he got that way? We’re all human and I hate to break it to you, but you’re no better by filming or making fun of someone that’s made fun of you. Stay quiet, stay disciplined, go to work, and good things will happen. Pay close attention because you never know who’s truly watching you. by Billy